At times in life we get to struggle a lot but after we’ve got what we wanted, we tend to develop in a totally different angle. 

We at some point feel low that we want to let go what we greatly invested in. There are people we greatly look up to and feel honoured once again. 

For me it’s the Rwandese president Paul Kagame and Mitchell Obama. Not that i don’t value the rest of these great people but in this take i had to put down what Mrs Obama feels every successful woman in the world need to know. 

1.ON RELATIONSHIPS“Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down,and trust your instincts.Good relationships feel good.They feel right.They don’t hurt.They are not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends you choose. It’s with the people you sorround yourself with. 

2.ON FRIENDSHIPS“We should always have three friends in our lives. One who walks ahead who we look up to and follow; one who walks beside us, who is with us every step of our journey; and then,  back for and bring along after we’ve cleared the way. 

3.On those trying times. “When you are struggling, and you start thinking about giving up, I want you to remember something that my husband and i have talked about since we first started this journey nearly a decade ago -something that has carried us through every moment in white House and every moment of our lives-and that is the power of hope.The belief that something better is always possible if you’re willing to work for it and fight for it. 

4.ON COURAGE.“You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once but don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of it’s own”.

5.ON NEGATIVE PEOPLE. “One of the lessons that I grew up with was always stay true to yourself and never let somebody else distract you from your goals. And so when i hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am. 

6.ON MAKING REAL CHANGE.Changing the big picture takes time…. and the best thing to do is focus on the things that we can make in our lives if we’re doing all that. That becomes the collage of real change “

7.ON BULLIES THAT TRY TO BRING YOU DOWN.“When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you don’t stoop to their level. No, our motto is, when they go low, we go high”.

8.ON FAILURE.“Failure is an important part of your growth and developing resilience. Don’t be afraid to fail “.

9.ON THE POWER OF BLINDING LOVE.“You don’t want to be with a boy who is too stupid to appreciate a smart young lady. There is no boy who is cute enough or interesting enough to stop you from getting your education “.

10.ON TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE .If you don’t take control over your life and time, other people will gobble it up .If you don’t prioritize yourself, you constantly start falling lower and lower on your list”.

11.ON ENDLESS GROWTH. “The question of what you want to be when you grow up is one you will entirely be answering.